Dear friend,
Now is the time when we must develop the highest level of self respect – so high that no one can affect us. Someone may throw a stone, but we must give them a jewel in return.
This week someone asked me, “if someone has a very abusive way of behaving, is there a time when we say, ‘This behavior has to transform,’ or do we just continue to use loving vision?
By this point in my life, I have learned all the methods. This is how I have survived until now and am able to show my face to you. God should see my face and be able to love me. Nobody else’s face should be visible on my face. No one else’s *sanskars should be visible in me. In many people’s minds other people’s faces are roaming around inside them. God shows us His own face. I want my face to look like God’s face – filled with love and with unshakable peace.
Our **drishti must be detached and loving. I must not remember anything from my past, even if someone has made a very big mistake. Some say, it’s easy to forgive, but difficult to forget. But our personality must be so high that we forgive and forget completely, so that even the one who made the mistake does not remember. Our vibrations can travel thousands of miles away.
With love,
BK Janki
anand: We suggest you go to your local BK center to find out in detail about some of the things you are asking about and to learn meditation which will help you to experience your true self and your unique role in life. We understand ourselves to be incaporeal eternal beings of light and God also to be an incaproeal being of light so in that sense God does have a form/image but it is not physical sense, because the soul cannot be seen with these physical eyes.
Two times I have shared my problems now very confidently & happily I want to share that positive vibrations worked in my life. My all problems are solved & through meditation I am solving my day to day matters...... Thank u my dear God for being with me.
Sometime some mis-understandings spoils the relations. I have gone through couple of such relations. These are my best friends. I tried to know about mis-understandings in their mind, one of them told me & I tried to explain & requested to clear their heart. But he didn't accept it. 2nd one did not told me mis-understanding in his mind. Though I tried to ask him about it many times he didn't told me any thing. This is 2nd time when I am going through pain of loosing people.They just don't want to talk to me. How to open this lock between relations? please guide me
Om shanti !thanks for guidance! I was bit confused but now I am clear about the concept forgiveness. I want to keep in my mind good moments spend with my beloved ones (my Pitaji who died & my love who left from my life because of parents' rejection); but I want do it without the feeling of hurt. I was not able to proceed with my life because of that hurt & sorrow. So I started meditating with the help of Sister Shivani's program on astha. Now I am completely out of the feeling of hurt & sorrow & I don't dwell in the past while remembering good moments spend with both of them.
I forgot the hurt feel to me because of a act of my dearest one. I always pray for his good life & good being. But dose it mean that I should forget him & good time spend with him & my love towards him? I meditate daily & though i have gone through tough period of my life I feel happy & light through out a day. My life is changed fantastically I think I am on right path but please guide me on the issue.
I have always experienced that its easy to forgive than to forget, over the years i realized that we should forget others mistakes and not the lessons we learnt from that. But, after reading your message i feel that we should forget even the lessons so that we remain neutral without bias and perform our acts with love. I love that message. Thanks Dadi
True forgiveness is a very deep
spiritual practice. Sometimes we think
we have forgiven but we are still holding on to traces of blame and resentment and
it is those traces that invite the negative response. When we truly forgive then people will truly respect
us.
I would suggest re-reading Dadi’s posting,
sit and reflect on it for a while and then practice with love this deep forgiving
and forgetting over a period of time and see the result.
i faced the same situation generally people take u for granted if u forgive them.so I just want to know what we need to do?
Whether or not you experience sorrow from others is up to
you. We need to develop a deep sense of
self respect balanced with mercy in order to forgive and forget. In this state of self respect; because of
being connected to your true self and your innate qualities you will find it
natural to forgive. You will understand
that the other is acting from their own insecurities and you will be able to
have compassion for that ones state of being.
As it says in the message from Dadi, the alternative is to have the
offenders face in your mind as you go over and over the offense causing, and
keeping yourself sorrow. Forgiving and
letting go heals and makes you strong.
Who then becomes the winner? . . . both; the forgiver and the forgiven.
We often turn to God to be forgiven and ask that He forget
our transgressions, with the full expectation that it will be so. We are thankful that He offers rest and
comfort. With Gods company we will receive the power of realization not repeat
the offense. We tend not to think of God as an idiot because he forgives us
again and again, we are thankful God is powerful enough to do this! We can then move forward and do better.
keep guiding us..
Always
Just reading this, made me feel the peaceful vibrations this message is sending.
It is true, that we forgive but we don't forget and that could hold resentment somewhere deep inside. So I will try to forget totally, even so that the other person doesn’t remember.
My Loving Didi,
That is so deep and peaceful, every word is full of love and sweetness.
Forget and forgive, and concentrate on the present. That is so very true.
My Brahma Kumaris, you do a wonderful task in everything.
I will never forget my time in Guragaon.
Aum Shanti, I feel so blessed, to be part of this spiritual family. Baba is always with me in my heart, and I am sure that Baba, is always watching all the souls below him.
Aum Shanti.
Thanks for this ...
It Was d Fabulous Thought ...
AND i think our vibrations thought make a atmosphere around us ...
OM SHANTI .....